Most people live their life hoping not doing.  Many people hope they can win the lottery, hope they can get a raise in their jobk, hope they can find a good partner, blah blah blah.  Now I’m not saying I’m any different, I do this to.  It’s so easy to hope that luck or chance will line up and everything will work out.  yet in real life that very rare.  In fact most people who get what they want in life generally make it happen.  They don’t hope they do.

Throughout my life, and every little step of progress I’ve made I’ve always came back to the same conclusion hard work is a prerequisite to success. The more I’ve accepted that I need to work hard, the more progress I made toward my goals.

Often we look for the shortcuts. Now there are great tips and tricks that can help in one’s journey towards success. However to even use such tips and tricks requires work, learning, effort and I think you see where I’m going. Even learning tricks and using them requires hard work.

I always found it humorous how movies make the criminal lifestyle seem easy. Some movies don’t a good example is Scarface, where towards the end of the movie he was so stressed out and paranoid that even if he didn’t get killed he was basically killing himself from the inside out. Even being a criminal, a thug or a con man is hard work.

Notice how some people can instantly create trust with whomever they talk to?  Even if you just met them, you find yourself telling them all kinds of secrets and revealing stuff that you don’t usually discuss.  How come?  How did they do it?  What’s going on?

Well a very big factor of building trust instantly is authenticity or being real.  Being real sounds easier said than done.  It means being comfortable with your flaws and casually talking about them not on purpose but not hiding them either.

Usually when one starts talking they try to impress and they try to hide all the little dark embaressing secrets.  However those are what makes him/her real.  If you are open around other people, comfortable with admiting your flaws and shortcomings you will creat instant trust.  You’ll be shocked at how open they will be with you, and all the secrets they’ll tell you.